Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Intimacy and Objectification

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When we objectify anything we remove ourselves from it. Often we may say, “I’m just being objective” without realizing what we are saying. Subjectivity is more honest. It is recognizing the lens of our own being to perceive. We are not objective and will never be. We experience life through our own bias and experience. When we miss-identify ourselves and adopt the cloak of ego, our bias is self-serving and the natural result is objectification and alienation.

Objectification is a form of abstraction such as when an artist represents something through paint, stone or words. Unless the artist is completely lost they will be clear about the difference between what they represent and the medium they employ. That difference — always, entails duality. A thinker, thinking thoughts is an objectification. The thinker is creating thoughts in a dual way. The thinker is an abstraction and abstractions are not real. Both thoughts and thinkers are objectified condensations about reality which are cut off from life.

When there is objective separation, true intimacy is not possible. An imaginary self is an impediment to integration. It is an illusionary, one-sided dimension which blocks wholeness and denies intimacy with our real self and therefore others. An imaginary self understands itself as independent and can’t see the interdependent connection to others. It is a psychic island cut off from life.

In an objectified role, the ego adopts a “what’s in it for me” stance with expectations of return on investment. Compassion and equanimity are not possible objectively. There may be the appearance of virtue but ego-centricity is waiting for a return and if not provided, disappointment will result. Genuine compassion is intimate and non-discriminatory with repose as its defining characteristic. The only way such a thing can occur is through subjective identification in a non-dual way. When the subjective nature of Self identifies  another Self there is the recognition of unity.
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